Disclaimer: This post will offend you IF you attend a church that does NOT teach the teachings of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Be warned.
For those of you who know me…and know me well, then you know that I like dessert. Cakes, cookies, pies, you name it…as long as it has sugar in it, then I’m a fan. Only until recently after several visits to the doctor and having spent entirely too much money on insurance copays, did I decide that it isn’t that important after all. I’ve come to understand that in life, there are far more important things other than my lust for dessert. And yes, I call my passion for dessert a lust. So please, don’t stop me…at least let me rebuke myself. The important things in life should be to glorify God, spend time connecting with others, and building lasting friendships with His children. Now that’s living!
As much as I do like dessert, it often makes me think of what would happen if a person only ate junk foods. Could a person survive on a diet that only consisted of what is considered as junk food: cakes, donuts, cotton candy, sugary snacks…you get my point here? Right? What if that person ate but the meal was often watered down and not nutritious? What if the meal itself was tainted? Would you still eat it? What if the meal had no real nutritional value at all?
So it is for many Christians on the Lord’s Day every Sunday morning. You see, as much as I am actually happy about giving up my desserts, I’m also sadden that many Christians choose to have what I call dessert on the Lord’s Day far too often. What am I talking about? Well, it is what our culture has come to accept on Sunday mornings, attending churches where expository teaching and true Biblical theology are often forgotten and exchanged for messages that focus on how we’re supposed to be happy, have more $$$$$, chase success…and a host of other foolish ideas that I can’t even go into right now. My sincere question is “Where is the Bible”?
Now here is the simple truth: Many churches in today’s culture are giving what I’d like to term as “cotton-candy type theology” which isn’t Biblical theology at all. And although I didn’t come up with the phrase, it is worthy to repeat. Why are so many settling for cotton-candy Christianity? What am I trying to say here? Well let’s see, you have churches that are giving parishioners partial truth. And let me say this humbly, partial truth really isn’t Truth at all. Instead of giving people the Truth that if they die in their sins, they WILL go to hell, what some so called churches are telling people is that God accepts everyone, whether they are currently practicing sin or not. Really? Where’s that in the Bible? You see, we can’t just pick and choose what we desire to believe in the Scriptures? The Bible states: “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.” 2 Timothy 3:16-17 (ESV). We are living in a day where few want to hear the Truth.
1 Timothy 4:1-2 “Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by devoting themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons, through the insincerity of liars whose consciences are seared.” (ESV).
Now I’m sure you’re wondering how in the world this pertains to women, particular single women. We women are more prone to make decisions based on our emotions, which is what the evil one desires most. We are the ones who are most prone to being gullible (might I remind you of who was tricked in the Garden of Eden, Reference: Genesis 3:1-6. And unfortunately we as women can tend to be silly. (Please see my disclaimer). Now of course that is not always the case, but we must be careful. Reference: 2 Timothy 3:6-7.
This brings me back to my opening comments about desserts. Here’s my question to you: Would you attend a church where Christ has been exchanged for a message that makes you feel good?
***Some things to consider when choosing a church:***
1. Does the Pastor live a life worthy of the calling according to Scripture? See also 1 Timothy 3; Titus 1.
2. Are the messages Biblical? Or is this just Psychology and motivational speaking 101 for the spiritually blind? (Sorry, got to add that in there. Please see my disclaimer at the top).
3. Are the church ministries Christ-centered? Now this one here can be somewhat tricky. If you attend a church were most everything is focused on your Pastor and not Christ, don’t walk……….RUN! Get out of there...and don’t trip leaving.
4. Are the messages more new aged teaching with very little to no mention of Jesus Christ? Are the messages focused on something you’re supposed to do such as getting rich, being happy, not cutting people off in traffic…that sort of thing? For example, does the Pastor teach on messages that lend to your emotional side? Let me break it down Tennessee style, do you find your Bible closed for the majority of the service? Now there’s your biggest clue.
5. Lastly, check out the church website, their belief statements. Does it align with Scriptures and the teachings of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ? If not, then keep it moving! Search for a church somewhere else. (And let me add here that you will not know what a Bible church is unless you read the Bible…and I’m not trying to be sarcastic in making that statement. I am being sincere with that statement.)
Now before I get any dirty comments or emails or scud missiles at my front door, let me say that it is not my intentions to offend anyone. Those of you who know me well also know that in years past, I attended what I call a church lost: where Jesus was exchanged for a more self-centered focus. It is my heart’s desire to warn women everywhere and of course single women, to beware of these types of churches with its seductive spirits and cotton candy theology/Christianity which is so prevalent in our society today.
Lastly, I am currently reading a book by author Mark Dever called “What Is A Healthy Church?” You may wish to consider this book as you search for the meaning of a healthy, Christ-centered, God-honoring church.
In Him our Only Hope: Heavenly Father, we humble ourselves to ask You to forgive us of our sins. Father God we ask for You to cleanse us through and through. Help those who may read this blog to clearly hear Your voice in where they are to worship on Sunday mornings. May they cease from following emotionalism and sensationalism that has become so prevalent in Sunday morning worship. Lord let us seek You and nothing else. May we take up our Cross and follow You, in Jesus Name, Amen.